As soon as we make the choice of saying “I’m not a victim” we’re on the path of growth. It’s only through the process of what we do when we take the opportunities God gives us for spiritual and emotional growth, that we grow. This is the task quality of life that logotherapy focuses on. No one is given a reward for having the potential to do an act of bravery, only for actually doing it. To put it another way growth comes only in the response to challenges. Thus Frankl called responsibility response-ability.
P.S. I feel I am often writing about the same things again and again, but whatever I write is always the result of a new awareness. I hope that my formulation conveys that newness for you. On the other hand all the formulations in the world won’t help unless you yourself come to your own inner consciousness of this.